Yesterday was a manic morning as we spent most of it in the pre-school sorting some bits out. By the time we got out it was well past lunch time & we had to pop into town to do some banking.
Kayleigh & Ethan had already eaten lunch at the pre-school however I hadn’t so thought I’d grab a bite to eat from town whilst we were there.
After doing our quick stops in town we headed towards MacDonalds…. yup I said MacDonalds!
Anyway I ordered myself something & Kayleigh said she was hungry so I ordered her a chicken nugget happy meal, with a mini chocolate milkshake. As per usual there was no space to eat in the restaurant so we headed out to find a bench inside town to sit on.
This was when it became quiet funny actually, the amount of people who walked past me & judged me was simply astounding. You could see from their expressions they we’re thinking “oh my god she obviously feed’s them junk food all the time” “crikey look at her with 2 toddlers eating crap, what a great example she is”.
It reminded me of the time I was in town on one of my days off, whilst pregnant with Ethan & Kayleigh in the buggy. The amount of looks I got, especially from the older generation, was amazing. I felt like turning round to them & saying ” I do work you know, I am allowed to have days off!”
So for all those that judged me yesterday, let me set some things straight.
- Yes my toddlers had chicken nuggets & chips, it was their first MacDonalds since god knows when. Everything in moderation is fine (note there was no fruit shoot as they send them doolalyee!).
- No they don’t live on junk food! I cook from scratch most of the time, we don’t have processed food, jars of sauces or anything like that in our cupboards or freezer!
- Yes I have 2 toddlers & was in town at lunch time on a Friday, but no I don’t sit on my arse the rest of the week. I’m currently working 28 hours over 4 days & studying for a degree & higher education qualification whilst looking after my children.
- No I don’t really care if you judged me, but I thought I’d answer the questions that you looked like you wanted to ask as you starred on the way past.
You see, this world is full of judgemental people, its human nature. However stereotyping someone is dangerous, especially if they don’t turn out to be what you was expecting.
Have you ever had a comment made or that look given to you by someone you dont know?
Good one Paula you’re a great mother don’t let anyone stop you doing a great job.xx
Aww thanks Mum, don’t worry I don’t intend to change to suit them x
I’m so with you on this, when I first had my daughter I HATED it if I forgot to put my wedding on and went out with the buggy without it. It’s not like I even believe in strict “marriage before children” type morals, I jus hated being judged and had as many conversations where I could shoe-horn in “Oh yes, my HUSBAND…”. Also, he works from home as a freelance writer and there have been times when people have overheard me say things to my daughter about going home to see daddy in the middle of the day and looked all judgey.
I totally agree with you Jane, the funny thing is, people that work are allowed days off! Funny you say that about the wedding ring, i’m sure people look for the ring on the finger as soon as they see your pregnant or have a baby! I’m afraid I dissapoint there as i only have the engagement ring 😉
hun for get what people think we have a take away 1 time a week as my two girls swimming lesson on wed so we walk home and get a takeway hun xxxx
Thank you for your comment 🙂 I have no issue’s with having takeawys, there has been times where i come home, really can not be bothered to cook & have pizza delivered 🙂 I just hate people judgying me when a) they don’t know me & b) their in town themselves on a weekday 😛
I hate it when people think they have the right to judge. I’m sure they’re not perfect. My husband and I have taken our little girl to MacDonalds now and again for a treat but it’s not often and she eats healthly 99% of the time. Unfortunately she enjoys her treat and has started to recognise the golden arches. Cue lots of embarrassment when we walk past a MacDonalds and my little girl suddenly shouts “Look Mummy, MacDonalds!” to all the passers-by!
lol, your not alone. After talking about it in the car i had “can i have my chicken nuggets now” all the way round town & in the queue at the quiet bank 😀 Also Kayleigh has a tendancy to say whilst we’re out an about, if i’m a good girl can i have a sweety 🙂